There is no doubt that the recent wave of antisemitic attacks across the United States and around the world has escalated our fears. It is normal for all of us—including children—to experience anxiety, anger, and confusion in the aftermath of such horrifying incidents. Events like the attacks in Boulder, Washington, DC, and the vandalism of Jewish schools and synagogues make us worry about our safety and the persistence of antisemitism in our own communities.
Antisemitism, simply put, means prejudice against or hatred of Jews. With antisemitic incidents on the rise across the country, it’s important for parents of all faiths to talk openly about what is happening. Below is some guidance to help prepare you for conversations at home.
Talk to Your Children
Avoiding the subject will only increase worry and fear. Encourage your children to ask questions, and do your best to explain what has happened in a way they can understand. This helps ease fears and clears up confusion.
Start the conversation by asking what your children or teens have already heard. As they talk, listen for misinformation, misconceptions, and underlying fears or concerns.
For preschool children: Be mindful of exposing young children to adult conversations. But, do not assume that they do not sense your emotions or have not heard your conversations. While we all do our best to limit our conversations around children, they often hear more than we think they do. Also remember that children may not understand all of your conversations and will fill in the blanks on their own, often with misconceptions or inaccurate information. Gentle reassurance and simple language go a long way.
Try to Limit News Coverage Exposure
Do your best to avoid coverage of the gory details around young children. Too much news coverage can be stressful for all of us. Take in what you need and then limit the rest.
Allow Your Children to Discuss Their Fears
Teens especially may want to talk about situations where they have experienced or witnessed antisemitism, discrimination, or hate. Children of all ages may ask if similar attacks could happen in their own schools or neighborhoods. It’s important to acknowledge that antisemitism does exist, while also reassuring them that many people—including parents, teachers, and community leaders—are working hard to keep everyone safe.
This may be a good time to review safety plans for your family as well as assure them that their schools, community centers, and synagogues are reviewing their safety plans as well.
Reassure Your Children that They Are Safe
Let your children know that synagogues, schools, and Jewish institutions are often increasing security measures in response to rising threats. Talk about these efforts in a calm and factual way. Knowing that trusted adults are taking action can ease anxiety and restore a sense of control.
If your children ever feel unsafe or anxious, encourage open communication and let them know you’re available to help.
Be Aware of Signs That Your Child or Teen Is Struggling Emotionally
Stay alert to signals of distress such as refusing to attend school, or having nightmares, headaches, and stomachaches. There could also be signs of declining school performance, loss of appetite, or diminished relationships with others. Children who are struggling emotionally may become more irritable or have trouble with their behavior, concentration, and attention. Don’t hesitate to seek help if these symptoms persist.
Gather as a Community
During times of increased stress and tragedy, it’s more important than ever to come together as a community. We are resilient as individuals—but even stronger when we support one another. Reach out to friends, family, and neighbors. Gathering in community strengthens our spirit and reminds us we are not alone.
We know that these are painful and personally difficult times, and we are here for you. If you or your child could benefit from counseling or support, please contact JFCS’ Center for Children and Youth at 1-888-927-0839 or contact us online.
By Beth Berkowitz, Psy.D.
