Antisemitism, simply put, means prejudice against or hatred of Jews. With antisemitic incidents rising in our country and around the world, it’s important for parents of all faiths to talk openly about what is happening. Below is some guidance to help prepare you for conversations at home.
Talk to Your Children
Avoiding the subject will only increase worry and fear. Encourage your children to ask questions, and do your best to explain what has happened in order to help ease their fears.
Start the conversation by asking what your children or teens have already heard about what is happening. As your children talk, listen for misinformation, misconceptions, and underlying fears or concerns.
For preschool children: Be mindful of exposing young children to adult conversations. But, do not assume that they do not sense your emotions or have not heard your conversations. While we all do our best to limit our conversations around children, they often hear more than we think they do. Also remember that children may not understand all of your conversations and will fill in the blanks on their own, often with misconceptions or inaccurate information.
Try to Limit News Coverage Exposure
Do your best to avoid coverage of the gory details around young children. Too much news coverage can be stressful for all of us. Take in what you need and then limit the rest.
Allow Your Children to Discuss Their Fears
Teens may also want to talk about situations where they have experienced or witnessed antisemitism, discrimination, or hate. No matter what the ages of your child it is likely they will ask if something like this can happen here, or if what is happening in Israel will spark antisemitic incidents here. It is important to respond to the reasonable likelihood while also bearing in mind that what they really want to know is that the adults are keeping them safe.
This may be a good time to review safety plans for your family as well as assure them that their schools, community centers, and synagogues are reviewing their safety plans as well.
Reassure Your Children that They Are Safe
Also let your children know that their synagogues may increase security during worship services and even Sunday school. Talk to your children and teens about these efforts to promote safety. Be sure they know that these individuals are there to protect congregants as well as to provide any help needed. This discussion may help to reduce the anxiety surrounding religious activities. If your children attend Jewish schools or attend activities at Jewish community centers, learn about efforts to ensure safety and security in these settings. If your children ever feel uncomfortable about their safety, be sure that they know that you are available to talk and address these concerns.
Be Aware of Signs That Your Child or Teenager Is Struggling Emotionally
Stay alert to signals of distress such as refusing to attend school, or having nightmares, headaches, and stomachaches. There could also be signs of declining school performance, loss of appetite, or diminished relationships with others. Children who are struggling emotionally may become more irritable or have trouble with their behavior, concentration, and attention. Don’t hesitate to seek help if these symptoms persist.
Gather as a Community
It is more important than ever that we come together as a community during times of increased stress and tragedy. Remembering that as individuals we are resilient and as a community we are even stronger is key to our healing process. Reach out to family and friends and gather together as a community to strengthen bonds and support our collective spirit.
We know this is a painful and personally difficult issue for many in our community, and we are here for you. If you or your child could benefit from counseling or support, please contact JFCS’ Center for Children and Youth at 1-888-927-0839 or contact us online.
By Beth Berkowitz, Psy.D.
